When you observe an abusive relationshp you tend to question a lot about the more agressive partner & conclude that I don't want to b with someone like that or do something like that to my partner. But if you look at your judgmnt, you're biased becos u didn't look at th negative things that are done by the victim. Who is to blame? & who would you want to be in the end?



Let me give you my position on this one?

I for one, I would not want to be like anyone under any instance because I am who I was made. And either way if you are not able to judge objectively and learn how to empathically deal with such problems then I am afraid that your life will end up like one of the two people you observed.

Just a while ago, a friend called me & told me about her life since growing up, she witnessed her mother suffer from beatings by her father & since then she has hated that in her father and now the parents are only together for their sake but the mistake she is only realising now is that she sided more with her mom & got a negative attitude towards men in general. She fell in love with a guy & dropped the guy after she found out he drinks (not abusive towards persons or alcohol though), but ten years later she found him with his wife living a better life while she has been running from man to man trying to find a man who does not resemble her dad, now she wants him back ten years after, only to realise that she is living a life like her mothers but not because of anything other than trying to avoid mistakes her parents found themselves in... Now what is the difference? Live your life and try to be neutral in your dealing and avoid pointing fingers...